Friday, October 28, 2011

Your Plans.

You need to always have faith. We spend our days and our lives planning. Planning for the next best thing, the next big event, where we will want to go next week and what we want to do in the next 10 years. We plan out our lives and we hope everything works smoothly like clock work.

Unfortunately, half the time, things don't go according to our plans. Our ideas sometimes don't work out, we don't reach our goals, we don't go where we wanted to go. Sometimes people turn our differently then how we thought they 'should' be. Things are exactly as they are meant to be. Just because we had this perfect idea for our lives, doesn't mean the way things work out, isn't perfect. Just because your relationship ended, or your job isn't right, or your life isn't going according to plan, that isn't ample enough of an excuse to give up. You keep trying, you keep pushing, you have faith that things are going to work out, exactly as they should.

Because they always, always, always do.

Your life may be falling apart, you may have bit off way more than you can chew, but sit tight, things will be ok. You might have this big intention and big expectations for your life. Maybe things don't work out like how you'd like them to. So what? Who say's what's in store for you won't be a million times better, more fulfilling, and rewarding.

So maybe you've been defeated, do you give up? Absolutely not. We meet people for the right reason, and we lose some for the wrong. We go places we shouldn't go, and sometimes we are held in place, no longer moving forward in life. This is life, it happens. Keep planning, keep dreaming, keep pushing. Just because something might not have worked out once, or twice, or three times...Do you give up? Never.

Life happens, it unfolds exactly as it should. So have faith, things ARE working out, they will work out and if at the end of the day, you aren't smiling, change something. Know that in the end, you will be smiling, filled with faith and your life will be utterly compete and beautiful.

"Everything works out in the end. 

If it doesn't feel right, it isn't the end."

I'm ready to fight for my life, for the good, for the beautiful, because good things happen, and they will always keep happening, whether I'm ready or not. That is the beauty of it all, I might need a break, a time out, a little rest and relaxation, and life will still be stirring behind me, in front of me, everywhere. Life is always happening, and we need to do what WE want to do. So puzzle me this - what do you want out of your life? What are you dreaming about? Hoping for? What makes you get out of bed in the morning....

I bet it's something powerful, beautiful and breathtaking. I hope it fills your days with endless happiness. Keep fighting, keep pushing, you are so close.

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Exactly as it is meant to.

"We wait. And as we wait, time passes us. Quicker than the moment before. We waste our days waiting. Waiting for others, waiting for more. This is it, everything you could ever have is right in front of you. You can't wait for someone else to be ready to start a life, to move forward, to accomplish a dream. This is your world, your dreams, your life. Define it how you like"

I came to this realization today, while sitting in bed after an exhausting morning and afternoon. Life happens. It's as simple as that. That we can run around our days, weeks, months, planning, planning, planning, and half the time, our lives don't work out according to plans.

We hope, we wish, we plan, we push, and yet... life unfolds exactly as it is meant to. Half the time we spend our days wasted away worrying about the future, or thinking too much about the past and not actually being present to exactly where we are. This is it, this is life. And I realized, that sometimes we get too caught up in the little things, the passing moments, all the plans and things we want to achieve, that we don't spend our time actually IN the moment. And that's ok. Because those moments that were running around like a chicken with our heads cut off, so busy and busting around, these are our moments, this is our life. Every moment we are building up to, is for right here and right now. 

And how you feel, is exactly how you are supposed to feel.

Sometimes we get cranky, we get angry, we get tired. Sometimes we get exhausted and overworked and burnt it. It happens, so what? We get some rest, we take some time, for ourselves, to reconnect to who we are, what we what and what we need. From there, we hop right back into the busy mess that is our lives.

Our lives are made up of all the little moments. We think big events, or big moments, or big goals being accomplished are what life is about - no, no. Our lives are about the moments in between. The imperfections, the frustrations, the over coming of obstacles and picking yourself up from when you fall down, or come off course. It's all the big moments, and everything in between.

That is life. And it is perfect, and fabulous in all the right ways. The imperfections and busy-ness and noise, it's all there to complete your life, to help make it powerful and full of life.

That's the secret: to be happy in everything you do. Because happiness isn't a destination, it's a life long journey, and for some, it's a life long challenge, something they have to work at. And I hope you work at it, because you deserve to be happy, and fulfilled and excited about every day.

"I'm excited about my life. For my relationships, my accomplishments, my failures. I'm excited to learn and grow and be me. But I'm not going to worry about how everything will turn out, or let my past define my future. This is my life, exactly as it is meant to be. And I won't waste any of it by getting stuck in the past, or moving too fast into my future."

So just be still, and embrace. This is your day, your moment, your life. And maybe you're too busy to realize it right now, running around trying to get everything done, to please everyone, to check everything off your list, and that's ok. Just as long as you realize it. Your life is exactly as it is meant to be, on a fast pace, moving forward, perfectly in motion...
This life is yours, define it exactly as you would like to. It is perfect, with all it's imperfections and troubles, and triumphs and happiness and fears. Just perfect.

You are just perfect.  Your life, is just perfect, exactly as it is.

Life will always keep moving, so make sure you keep up. And always make sure, your life is happy. That you are happy. And if you find that you are not, take a step back from your busy, little life and realize you are big. You are powerful. Change what doesn't work for you. And keep on trucking. Don't worry about the future, or fret about the past because everything will and does workout, for the best. Trust this. It's ok to get caught up in your life, in the big moments and the excitement and worries about the future, because this is your life. Unfolding exactly as it should be.

This is the road you were supposed to take.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

If you can believe in anything in this life...

"Trust and believe in yourself. You are the highest authority on you. You know yourself best. You know what you need, want, and value. Don't let anyone else make the decisions for you. Healthy boundaries make it possible for you to respect your strengths, abilities and individuality."

I think if you can believe in anything in this life, you should believe in yourself. Life can get tough, people can, and I assure you, will let you down, things will fall completely off track and you'll end up wondering what in the world your fighting for? Life. That's what your fighting for, that's what is worth it, what is great and what is worth the risk, the pain, the hurt. If we've hit rock bottom, the only thing that will help you make your way back onto your feet, is yourself. 

You need to believe you will be ok, that things will, rest assured, get better. We learn from our experiences, realize from our heartache, and it is within our most struggling of times, that we are the most powerful.
We give power to our words, we give power to our thoughts. If you constantly are telling yourself you won't make it, you aren't good enough, that you aren't ever going to be great, well then you've failed right away. You are at the bottom of the food chain with no hope of moving up. But guess what? You and your negative thoughts are ridiculous. Congesting your head and your heart with thoughts that you aren't good enough and will never be enough, those are the only thoughts you'll hear, they are the only thoughts you'll believe. Don't you ever realize that, that the bad things are always easier to believe. We are constantly scared, the next thing, the next moment, experience, is going to be a bad one. That bad things do, and always will happen.

Wrong. Yes, bad things happen, but good things happen too. For the most part, the good comes with the bad, it's the way life works. We would never be happy or accept success, if we truly didn't understand how much it hurts to be heartbroken, or fail at anything. We learn from our experiences. We need the bad, we need the good. We make up our lives and our decisions, our thoughts, our beliefs.

If you could choose one thought, right now, to start your day off, make that thought a good one, a positive one. Fill your head with the belief that you are enough, that you are great, because you are. Don't just sit there thinking your life won't ever get any better, you need to make it better. Don't be a negative, pessimistic schlum, decide and commit to being better. Better than you were yesterday, better than your negative thoughts, and better than the bad baggage you carry around with you day after day.

Because you are better.
So if you choose to believe in anything this life, choose to believe in yourself. Go after life, make your life better. There are people who sit back and watch their lives fly by and wonder why nothing grows, moves forward, gets better. And then there are those people who aspire for more, who push, push, push and never take "no" or "you aren't good enough" or "things will never get better" as an excuse. 

So stop making excuses for your life, for why things aren't going your way. If life is continuously dealing you the wrong cards, it's about time you re-shuffle. Things are never going to change or get better, if you aren't willing to change them and fight for them. So change the way you think about yourself and your life. Change the negative thoughts into good ones, kick the baggage you carry around to the curb and start fresh, a clean slate.

Start the day off, believing in yourself and knowing everything you are capable of.

If things aren't going your way, change them. You have the power to put your dreams, your actions and yours beliefs into motion. So believe in yourself, believe in your life. Push yourself and get out there and never back down, never say no. Stop settling for something mediocre and accepting that bad will always happen. Change that. If things aren't working, promise me you'll change them. If you aren't happy, you have to make a move to better your life. Things won't start getting better, until you actively decide that they need to get better. That there is no other way to be but better, happier, knowing you are capable. 

This life is yours, believe in the power of YOU.

"People will always say you're going the wrong way, when it's simply just a way of your own."


Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Yes, you can.

"The most common way people give up their power, is by thinking they don't have any."

Never give up your power. Never second guess yourself. You know who you are best, and if you're still working on figuring out who you are, that's ok too. We're all a work in progress. So don't ever give up or give in just because someone says you can't, that you aren't good enough. Other people do not define you. Some people will put you down, stomp on you and make you cry, only to make themselves feel better. We are all wrestling with a demon in our lives, we all have struggles and strife. Life is hard. Some people choose to take life out on others.

Please don't.
For we are strong and caring and fulfilling people. Humans have a heart, we care for one another, we are nurturing. Instead of people bringing each other down, why not raise each other up? Do not tell me I can't, because I'm just going to show you I can. 

So help me, help you. 

This partnership we need to learn, this helpful way is essential for success. We can't make it on our own, we can get sure damn far, but the road is awfully lonely all by ourselves. So help others, let others help you. If someone is frustrated and discouraged by all the things they feel they can't do, show them the things they can. And never, ever believe someone who is putting you down. This is in direct happiness for them to feel better. This is their strength - put others down, so they can rise up. Poke fun, point, who cares? They don't define you. Who would want this as their strength and their means for happiness?

So please remember, you have ever possibility at your fingers tips, spread the strength, spread your power. You are possible, and yes, YOU CAN.

"They are going to tell you, you aren't good enough, smart enough. They are going to tell you you're not the right height, the right weight, the right look. They are going to tell you you're not the right size to play this sport, or strong enough to do this or that. They are going to tell you, you aren't smart enough to succeed or just that you're not good enough. They are going to tell you a million times no, and you are going to tell them YES. It's the strength of belief you have in yourself, because YOU CAN. Yes, always remember that."

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Your most powerful moment.

"Stop whining and complaining. Stop wishing and wanting and worrying about all the things you don't have. Your life won't get any better until you make the active decision to make it better. You have the power to surround yourself with people and things that make you feel fulfilled. If these things don't add to your life? Remove them. This is the best thing, you are in control of your own life. Who knew? And with the power of that, anything is possible."
You know those days you have - in the middle of the week, at the end of the month, they seem to hit you like a hurricane. Everything is going fine and dandy until, WHAM, it hits you, a bad day, a bad week, a bad hour, a bad month. They happen. 

Everyone you seem to encounter upsets you, the littlest of comments come across the wrong way, and you just want to cry. The sky looks grey, things aren't looking up, you just want to curl up and hide away. Everywhere you seem to look, there is devastation. We have bad days, so what? They happen. They suck, we live. We have days when we don't even want to get out of bed, because what's the point? We wonder what if? What could have been? Why, why, why?

This is completely normal. Every now and then,we feel a little sorry for ourselves. Our worlds seem to fall into shambles and we want to give up. Everything was going so great and now you seem to find yourself on the floor in your room, staring up at the ceiling, not knowing what to do next.

In this moment, this moment of absolute depression, surrender, conquer...when all seems lost and nothing will start to look up -  this is your moment. Your most powerful of moment. Here you get to choose, what will happen next. What will you do next. How are you going to react...
Is the answer going to be drama, drama, drama. Pain and tears, sweat and blood? Are you going to fight your way through the rest of your day, your week, your month, your life? Sure. Maybe you will, but is that really the easy way out? Maybe for some, but for other's, that would never be enough. So give up on easy, on mediocre, on not caring, because you do. The truth is, we seek change, we need it. We might hate it at times, but things will never get better or progress without change. 

In this moment of fear and sadness, this is your moment for change. The moment you are the most powerful because YOU get to decide how things are going to play out. So are you going to pick yourself up from off the ground, dust yourself off, acknowledge the bad and come to terms with the things and people that upset you, and move on. Bad things will happen. Will you gather your pieces back together and make your heart strong, and chose to push through your day, your week, your month, your year with force. The force of determination for change, for the good, to never give up. 

We accept fear, we accept sadness, and we accept falling to pieces and giving up every now and then. What you do next, that is up to you. You have the power, the force to make a change, make a difference, and I know that you will.

For falling to pieces, laying on the ground not knowing what to do next, these moments tend to be the most clear for us. With nowhere to go, no one to talk to, here we realize what we have to do, want to do, and will do. These moments of fear and helplessness are our moments of power. It's from this angle, of complete emptiness, with our soul in shambles, that we truely see, life from a different angle.
What would you do to change your life? What is holding you back? What is bringing you down, time and time again? Who is bringing your down, time and time again? What you don't need in your life, get rid of. What brings happiness and joy, always keep around. For good things will come and bad things will go. This is life. It's how we react to it, that really matters.

So will you pick the drama? The poor you and the helpless nature of what's next: absolutely nothing? Hell no. There is no giving up, there is only pushing forward, knowing your power, because you are powerful. 

It's about accepting that these helpless, sad moments, they happen. You will want to give up. The realization: you have the world in your hands, and in that moment of absolutely helplessness, when your life is in complete shambles, laying on your bedroom floor, know that this moment is yours, where you are the most powerful. 

Choose wisely.