Thursday, November 24, 2011


"Success often comes to those who dare to act. It seldom goes to the timid, who are ever afraid of the consequences."

Do not fear failure. Do not fear falling down. Do not fear success. And do not fear getting back up again.

For life has it's up and downs, and we all go through them. Some days are good, while others aren't. We have daily struggles that slow us down, and make it harder to finish the day. But we do, we finish, and most of the time we finish with a smile on our face and love in our hearts. So do not fear failure, do not be afraid of falling down, of messing up, making a mistake. For this is where we learn, we grow, we understand life through the eyes of experience. We need these experience to grow, to relate, to understand, to really accept success with compassion and happiness. 
So do not be afrad to succeed, to do well at something. When someone says you can't? Show them you can. If you're telling yourself you can't, that's all you're ever going to do. We are generally our own worst critic. Stop this act, stop putting yourself down and start bringing yourself up. We need to start being our own biggest fan. To start the day of right, loving ourself, filled with hope and ready soar. For most of the time, we might fall, but that experience is worth the risk. For when we succeed, hit a goal, experience something we truly want, we win. 

So choose to succeed, to go after what you want. You deserve it. Don't be afraid what others might think or say, for they forever will be saying things. Don't be afraid to shine, in fear others might not like it. Do not worry about others, for their time to shine is coming near.

We all shine, in our own ways, all at different times. It's life. We each deserve happiness and love and success. For we cannot reach success, understand success, appreciate success, without failure.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

So what?

"Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checked by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat."
Most of our days are spent wasted, dreaming, hoping, wishing...never actually doing. We spend most of our days regretting not putting ourselves out there, trying something new, pushing ourselves, and for what? What are we losing by not simply 'going for it'? Everything. And what can we gain by just simply 'going for it'? Everything.

So the answer is simple. Stop living life in fear, fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of not being acceptable, applauded, appreciated. What you did was bigger and better than what half the people are doing today, you actually did something, you actually got out there. So you fell down, so you didn't win, or you didn't come 1st, or 2nd, or 3rd, you came last...who cares? So you fail once, doesn't mean you're going to fail every time. It's through our triumphs and our failures that we learn the most about ourselves. It takes a big man to win, but it also takes a big man to lose.

"If you are not big enough to are too small to win."

So what if you fail? What if you don't win? What if you fall flat on your face? So what? Does it define you? Absolutely not. 

This is a lesson, a test of who you are and what you are capable of. The fact that you stepped foot into something different, something challenging, something new, something you wanted to go an accomplishment in itself. What you did is great and powerful. You should be proud, holding your head up high. 

Life is about learning. It is about winning and about failing. It's about understanding and experiences.

So what? What do you really have to lose?

Absolutely nothing. 

Sunday, November 6, 2011


"Ask most people what they want out of life and the answer is simple – to be happy. Maybe it’s this expectation, though, the wanting to be happy that just keeps us from ever getting there. Maybe the more we try and will ourselves to states of bliss, the more confused we get to the point where we don’t recognize ourselves. Instead, we just keep smiling trying like hell to be the happy people we wish we were until, eventually, it hits us. It’s been there all along. Not in our dreams or hopes, but in the known, the comfortable, the familiar."
Sometimes our goals are to be successful, to pass a test, to run a marathon, to do something big and huge and different. We want to change our lives, advance them, evolve in this ever changing world. But sometimes, the simplest of things and the most difficult, is to choose the goal to be happy. To advance into our situation with ease and positivity. To walk into a room, with your head held high and a smile beaming from ear to ear.

Sometimes, happiness can change everything. We don't realize the impact our happiness and our lives has on others. A negative comment, a negative action, can in turn put someone else down. This world isn't full of a million YOU's or a million ME's, this world is filled with a million, billion, different people. And our actions don't just affect us, they affect everyone.

Be aware of your actions and the power you have over others. The way you think, feel, love...doesn't just affect you. Take responsibility for your actions and choose to take the high road.

Choose to be positive, to love deeply and forgive quickly. Life is far too short to wait for things to happen. To wait for the right moment, right person...stop waiting. Stop searching. Things are right here, right in front of you. Happiness is a decision, it's an easy one to make.
So take a moment, let your negative thoughts flow, mumble to yourself - then let everything go. Be strong, be positive. You got this. 

This is your life, your world. Paint it with happiness and people and things that you love. People and things and hobbies that make you happy. If you are doing things you love, the things that make you happy and laugh. To surround yourself with people who do nothing more than fill your heart with warm and fuzzies, YOU HAVE WON the battle. That is the main goal of life, to be happy with everything you have.

Not happy? Things aren't enough? Stop complaining and change something. This world is yours and the power you posses is endless. Surround yourself with all the things you please. The people who matter, won't mind, and the people who mind, don't matter. So stop listening to the negative people, to the negative voice inside your head. Surround yourself with love. And happiness is soon to follow.

Those cards you've been dealt, they are enough.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

55 Flavors...and then some.

"Happy girls are the prettiest girls."

I want to know whoever told you can't.

I want to know who it was that sat you down and told you you weren't good enough, or smart enough, or strong enough. I want to know where all these stories came from..all the bad thoughts that flood our minds, and our confidence, and create a blurry and fuzzy and horrible misconception of who and what we are.

I want to know where all those bad feelings started from, and I want you to know the truth. That you are perfect, just as you are. Most of our days, it feels like we are fighting to survive. Not just fighting against our lives, our relationships, our families, our work and sometimes even strangers...a lot of the time were fighting with ourselves.

The way we feel about ourselves isn't because of what other people think, it's because of what we think. And I want to know when you started thinking this way. That you can't, you won't, and you never, ever will make it. That you don't deserve happiness.

Because you do.

So when did this start? When did you let all the little thoughts, stories and beliefs take control of your presence and ultimately control your future. You let them control your life, your decisions, your relationships - But no longer.

Whoever told you you aren't good enough, is full of crap. Half the time, other people put us down in order to rise themselves up. We all have bad days, fat days, sad days. Days that are ultimately harder than the one before, to make it from beginning to end. This is life. It is tough, but it is beautiful. And so are you.

We are all different, built not identically, but completely different. One moment I just realized: every body is built their own way, has their own strengths, own flaws, own beauty. We are meant to be different.

Just because you aren't tall and thin, doesn't mean you're not perfect.

Just because she is beautiful, doesn't make you not beautiful.

Maybe you're curvy, shorter than others, or more muscular, or more thin...don't make it bad, make it good. We are meant to be different. The world works this way. We are all attracted to different things and different people. We all have our own tastes. If we didn't, we all would want the same things, go for the same people and the world would have no originality. We need our differences to keep the world fresh, full of flavor, ever changing, constant, and independent.

So those stories, those bad thoughts, stop believing in them. Stop letting them tell you how you should feel. Don't make it bad, make it good. You have that power to shut it out. To let go of the baggage you've been holding onto. To realize exactly as you are, is perfect. There is no 'ideal' beauty, no matter what society, or pop culture or magazines will say. You are fabulous and perfect and flawed. It is those flaws that make us original.

And we shouldn't want it any other way.