Thursday, November 29, 2012

Enough with the expectations

Wake up to realize you have nothing left to prove to this world. You don't have to impress, or improve, or be better. You don't need to flaunt your skills, your kindness, whatever it may be that you think you need to work on or show off - you don't need to prove this to anyone, not even yourself. You have proven enough to this world - you are giving, caring, careful, gentle, strong, are everything that makes you complete. You've done enough thinking and believing that you aren't good enough, that things aren't right, you need to keep pushing to be better, for everyone else around you. Stop. Let go. You can let down your walls, there is nothing left to prove. 

Now take a deep breathe.

You are 100% enough all of the time and right now, right now isn't about proving anything to anyone. Why waste your time proving yourself, that your tough enough, strong enough, nice enough...enough, enough, enough! You have done it once and you can do it again, there is no more proving, just being constantly you is enough.

Right now isn't about proving you're ready, that you are stable, that you have complete control over your life - sometimes it's about accepting you DON'T have control and you are OK with not being perfect because life is playing out exactly as it should be. There will be up's and down's. Days when you feel like you've got everything together and days when you want to stay in bed. Weak days and strong days, emotional moments and moments of weakness. The thing is...everyone goes through it. The tough, the rough, the hard, the emotional, the weak....everything. Life is up and down and constant, just like you. So stop proving anything to any one - you are enough. Always.

"You can't live a positive life with a negative mind."

You need to enjoy this moment, not feel pressure from friends or family or anyone around you, especially not yourself. Lay off the pressure - lay off the pushing and shoving and take a step back and breathe. Release the pressure and anxiety to be perfect, and to work harder. The need to keep impressing and pushing to keep up with others, to be enough in their eyes and live up to their standards. You are enough, in this moment and you always will be. Let go of the belief that the world is out to get you. You have to start off with believing in yourself, in your abilities, in the fact that you are enough, because you are. The world is here to help you and people will come in and out of your life to teach you things. You grasp something new with each experience - life is a blessing. 
Let go of the pressure and anxiety and the desire to prove anything. You have nothing to prove. To live every day positively, sending love into the world, knowing that you're always giving your best, accepting each day as they come and the moments as they are living your life exactly as it should be. And it is YOUR LIFE. No one else's. So let go of the need to impress and improve always. For every day of your life you have a decision to move forward and work hard and I know you'll do it. Let go of all of the expectations. Be free to live, freely. Life will have it's up's and down's...sometimes you'll be ahead and sometimes you'll be behind. It's what keeps you working and striving for me. So set goals and dream big...but let go of the expectations of others. Let go of the negative thoughts and the desire to be perfect in others eyes.

Your life. Your rules. Live without expectations. 

Life is about being present in the moment, about taking it all in and being content with this silly, beautiful, wonderful life. 

You have reached and you have achieved so much - so let go of the desire to constantly impress and constantly prove yourself. You are your fullest potential, you are you. Fabulous, perfect and constant. 

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

I've learned there are troubles of more than one kind.

"One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful."

Sometimes bad things happens. Sometimes the right people hurt us, let us down or do the wrong thing. We go through struggles and challenges of all shapes and kinds. I've come down to realize you can't obsess over the bad things that have happened, only take a step back from the situation, take a deep breathe and move on. Maybe allow yourself to worry about it for a quick moment, have a little cry, a little scream, a little yell at the universe and then let it go. Turn around and thank god and this world for every blessing there is in your life.

For every challenge, every struggle, there is growth from that. There is learning and love and experience. So don't make it bad, don't obsess and don't let it control you. Make the experience what you will, then take a deep breathe and move on. Move on to a thought that is bigger and better than your worries and this moment. Be big and be bold and choose a positive thought.

"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside of you greater than any obstacle you will ever face."
You are bigger than your worries. You are bigger than your troubles. Let your mind be at ease and your heart be gentle. There is a lesson and a blessing behind every fear, every obstacle, every challenge. For the beauty is in the breakdown and the learnings that come from falling. So don't be afraid to fall, don't be afraid to fail and cry and start all over. Let the experience affect you as it will. Cry or shake or scream and curse the world...and then move on. Just take a deep breathe and move on to a better thought. Let your mind come to a positive state and let your heart be gentle and understanding. Know that you will overcome any challenge, any fear, any troubles placed before you.

You are destined for happiness and so much more. Trust in this. And always, always, always, count your blessings.

"I've learned there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead, others come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see. Now my troubles are going to have trouble with me."