Loser

"Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength.” - August Wilson.

Sometime’s winning isn’t everything. We think that if we don’t win, we lose. That we are losers, not worth it, not worthy, we have failed. But failure, not winning…isn’t losing. With everything we do, we gain something. We gain an experience, the knowledge, the emotions, the lesson. We learn what we’re missing, what we need to work on and what our strengths are and what we are good it. From there you can get better. You can work your way up to greatness. Perfection? No such thing. We all have weaknesses, we all have places and times where we will fall short. If you don't know your weakness, that is a weakness right there. Someone will always seem to be better, bigger, prettier, stronger, faster, smarter…this thought you have, this is in your head. It is ridiculous. You my friend, you are enough. 

"Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh never mind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you cant grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine." - Class of 96'

You control your thoughts. You control how much you actually like yourself. If you don’t think very much of who you are, no one else will. How do we make it through the day? We sell ourselves. We make sure we are the person we want to be, the person people want to know, talk to, come to for advice, to love, to laugh with and smile. We are the people we want to be. We decide. We decide at the beginning of the day how much we are going to love ourselves, and if it isn't enough...the day is going to seem long and cold and devastating. We decide how much greatness we possess. We are enough. We need to like who we are and what we've been given. 

"Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Dont be afraid of it or what other people think of it, its the greatest instrument you'll ever own.." - Class of 96'

So with failure and not winning and not technically ‘succeeding’ it doesn’t make you not good enough because you haven’t lost anything. There is no such thing as a loser. You will gain something with everything you ‘lose’ and sometimes, it’s the best thing that could happen to you.

When we are hurt, injured, sad, heartbroken. When we are in the darkest of places, that is sometimes the best place. From there you can build yourself up, create this possibility of everything you can be. It’s the dark times in our lives that have created strength and persistence to have us keep changing, keep pushing, striving for greatness. It’s when we think it’s all over, when we think things could never get any worse…that we are determined to make things better for ourselves. 


This life, this world, who you are…is exactly what you make of it.

So decide to make something good. Decide to take the lesson, the experience out of every loss, every gain, every let down, every happiness. There is something there for each and every one of us to find. We just need to look for the good, search a little deeper and not give up. We actively decide how much we are going to like ourselves, how big we are going to dream, how much we are going to achieve. We decide what to take out of every situation and how hard we need to be on ourselves. Decide to believe in who you are, what you are capable of and to take every loss as a gain. 


This set back, this failure, this loss...doesn't make you a loser. It doesn't make you not enough. It sets you up for success, to have you keep pushing, to keep wanting to get better. It's helping you see where you need to get better, what you need to work on. We all are a work in progress. We just need to start enjoying the journey to self discovery and self love.

You gain a little something around every corner you turn.