Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Life takes effort.

"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take."-Anthony Robins

Some of the most challenging, exciting and important times in our lives, are the times we spend with others. This world is big, full and constantly moving forward. We have a population of over 6 billion people. That's over 6 billion hearts, a trillion emotions, millions of feelings swirling around in this great big world. 

The honest truth: we need others.
Relationships are important. A lot of the time we like to pretend we are fine on our own, that we are independent, can rely on our selves. We go into jobs, friendships, even families thinking what does this have to offer me? Me, me, me. In this great big scheme of things, this great big world, it isn't just you. This world is about you, and about others. But mostly, life is about the relationships we make throughout our lives.

There comes a time when we grow up and realize it is us who get to decide who we want in our lives, who we need in our hearts and who we can simply let go. There are people that weigh us down, others that bring us up. You are smart, you can figure out who fits which place in your life.

Leave the bad ones behind.

But the more we seem to push others away, the more we try to get along on our own,  it's like were taking two steps backwards. The truth: we need others, we need emotions, feelings, love, hate, anything as a simple as a touch. Interactions and conversations, communication on it's own, we need it every single day. If we didn't talk or laugh, or even curse at the world once a day, we would go crazy.
What we need to realize is relationships take balance and decision. You are giving this person every opportunity and chance to come into your life, to be a part of your world. You are opening up your heart to hurt, experience, happiness. This is a big deal. But as much as you are letting them into your world, they are also letting you into theirs. So as much as this day, this world, feels like everything is about you - please remember, there are others. Everyone is struggling with a fear, a demon, an experience that weighs them down - the great things is, we are here, to bring each other up.


Relationships; whether love, friendship or even family, take work. We need to work to have things run smoothly, fight in order to get along, life takes effort. You are going to get back as much as you put in. So I say put in 110%. Give everything to your life, your job, your passions, your relationships. Never go half-ass into anything, you'll end up with nothing...and you'll know why.

Why do anything half way?

Relationships will be give and take. They take work, communication, heart and passion. We must realize the impact we can have on others, with the reflection those people have on our world. 

Are they supporting you? Loving you? Do they bring you up? What do they bring to this relationship? And in turn, what do you bring? What can you offer? What will you commit to give them? Your answer: 110%.
You are going to meet people who have hurt you, who will bring you down. Relationships you needed to let go of a long, long, long time ago. And yet, they were in your life for a reason. To help you realize how much better you deserve, how much love you can give, and how great your life can be - without them. We need to realize the reason of the bad, to help us appreciate the good. Sometimes we overlook the good things, the good people in our lives, the things that are right in front of us. The hard part is, it takes experience and pain and loss to simply change our outlook. The good is generally there all along...

Realize the people in your life that are meant to be there, the ones who support you, care, curse you to push harder, to be the best person you can be. Realize the people you finally need to let go of, the ones holding you back, weighing you down. Drifting is a part of life. The relationships that are meant to last, will. 

Things happen for a realize. The good and the bad, they will happen. We are the one's with the power to decide who we want to surround our lives with. Who we will smile with, laugh with, play with. 

Choose wisely, as a heart is a precious thing. And always, always, handle with care.

"A heart will never be made practical until it is made unbreakable." - The Wizard of Oz

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