"Too many people miss the silver lining because they're expecting gold." - Maurice Setter
It's about showing up.
This is your life, right here, right now. So be here. Show up and be present to your relationships, your job, your passions. You need to dive into your life and realize all things are possible. You need to be a YES. A Yes to you can succeed, a Yes to you can do anything, a Yes to taking on the world.
Saying negative thoughts won't get you anywhere. The way you think and treat yourself, is what the world is going to give back to you.
It's something important to think about: The power of your thoughts, of your words. Just thinking you're not good enough, that you can't do it, gives these words power and meaning. If you go into the world thinking you're no good, that is how people are going to treat you. You need to realize you are amazing and perfect just as you are. Where you go, you are. You will be forever changing, evolving, growing and learning. But you will always be You, and that is a good thing.
So if you have a problem? Fix it. Mad at someone, hurt, let down? Confront them. Things not working out just the way you had been dreaming? Change it. That is the beauty and the power of it. We can change, fix, swap or remove things. We need to stop being so scared of what others might think, or so cautious of our actions. We are our actions, we have the control, the power. So stop complaining about your world and change it. Define it how you like. You chose who gets to be part of your world, what you are going to do, and where you are going to go.
The beauty of it: You decide. Always, always, always.
What it comes down to is you and the amount of love you need to give yourself. The answer is: always more. When self love is doing its part, the rest will sure follow. So decide to be present to yourself and give you what you deserve, which I find for the most part, is not nearly enough.
"Pain is inevitable.
Suffering is optional."
You need to decide to be present to your life, to actually be in the moment and just be there. Realize this is the moment, and it's perfect and exactly how it is suppose to be. Things happen for a reason, people will come and go, conflict will come up. It is you who decides how to handle these things. Being present is being fair to yourself and to others. You owe yourself this much to actually be able to enjoy your day, your relationships and actually get things back from them. Decide you can do things, you can change the world. The power is You. The things that happen to us do not define us, it how we decide to handle them. It is through our actions that we can produce change.
So the answer to all: love, love love.