Experience.

"It's so hard to forget pain

But it's even harder to remember sweetness

We have no scars to show for happiness

And we learn so little from peace."

Sometimes things don't work out. Sometimes, all the good things we have going for us, fall apart. We feel as though we've lost everything, we've hit rock bottom and what are we expected to do next? Expected...isn't that a funny way to think of it. Expectations. We all have our own. We define for ourselves what we want, when we want it, how we're going to get it and whether we are actually going to get it. There are two different types of people in this world...people who go after what they want and the people who sit back and watch. They wonder how it's so possible for people to achieve, to set goals...to accomplish.

You can accomplish anything.

Some people go through life not actually living. They are in a daze of what ifs, dreams, regrets and memories. A jumbled idea of what kind of a life they would like to have, but wonder how they are going to achieve it. Who do you want to be? A go getter? Someone who goes after what they want, someone who accomplishes things, who succeeds and is happy with what they have. Or...be someone who is constantly nagging at the things they don't have, the things they wish they had and live their life hoping one day someone will wake them up.

Wake up. Realize this is it, you can have absolutely anything you want. Go after it, you can achieve it.

I get it. This doesn't always seem true. This might not work with a job or someone you love. Yes, sometimes people will leave us and not love us. They will hurt us, let us down. A moment will tear us apart and have us thinking, "was it even worth trying?" To me, yes it was worth it. After all the pain and tears, you are going to learn something from that experience or that person. You are going to be stronger, you are going to decide never to settle. You are going to figure out the kind of person you want to be because of it. You will realize what you want, what you don't want and how much you deserve.

You deserve better.

Things do fall apart, people do hurt us...but everything, everything, happens for a reason. An experience, a person, a moment...a memory can change everything. Life has a funny way of having everything make sense, of having things fall together for a reason. Life is so sneaky sometimes, it's amazing. Good things will happen, granted, so will bad things. But in the long run of life...they all add up to make sense. This is the life for you, this is what is suppose to happen. There are some things you can control, and most you can't. But the things that are within your reach, within your power...take control. Make the decision to be bold, to be positive, to go after what you want, what you deserve and never, ever, look back.

"Sometimes, good things fall apart, so that better things can fall together." - Marilyn Monroe

Don't live your life on the side lines waiting. Constantly we are waiting. We wait for the next big thing, the next big moment, we are never actually being present in our lives. We don't seem to count our happy moments, the amount of times we've smiled in a day. We think about all the heartache and pain in this world, not the glory in it. 

And there is so much glory. So many flowers worth smelling, so many people worth meeting...places we should experience, people we should know, moments we can grow from. There is so much out there. Although you can't see a battle wound from a broken heart, or any  scars from the amount of happiness we've experienced, maybe it's a good thing we don't wear our emotions on our sleeves. To show the world everything we have, every experience we have gone through, would be to give away all our little secrets. The secrets that make up who we are.

I like secrets sometimes. That's the exciting part of getting to know someone new, we all have secrets.

Stop. Smell the roses. Smile. Stop. Stop waiting, stop wanting. Go, embrace life with both hands and go after what you want. This world is a beautiful place, and yes there is much hurt out there but...there is also so much love.

Experience only makes us stronger.