Coulda

"My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we will change the world." - Jack Layton

Isn't it always better to look on the bright side? A lot of the time, we'll most of the time, I find we spend our days wasted away wondering and day dreaming of how green the grass really is on the other side. So what? We wish, we hope, we want, want, want. If we are constantly flooding our minds with thoughts of all the things we wish we had, we want, or don't have - this world is going to seem a little gray. Who would chose to be negative, grumpy and pessimistic over cheerful, loving and optimistic? Why would you honestly want to start your day wondering what is going to go wrong, or worrying about all the things that might happen. Who wants to start their day worrying about the storm that might never come?

It's the coulda, woulda, shoulda's, is what they are. Thinking too much about what we should have done or said, or ultimately how we could go back in time and change things for the better. But guess what? All we have is right now. The here, the real, the now. It's all we've got. The things that happened in the past, they happened. So what? They've shaped you, they've changed you, maybe they've defined you. You can either hang on to it right now or move forward and start fresh. This is up to you, isn't that great? We chose what we want to define us, what we want to keep and what we want to share. It's our experiences and our memories that make up who we are, the people we surround ourselves with. What it comes down to, is who you are right now, and guess what? Who you are right now, really isn't that bad. Look how far you've come, what you've accomplished! You've done pretty well for yourself. The big idea is just being the greatest you you can be. And that involves in looking forward, knowing good things will happen, that the good will eventually come. And if it doesn't? We go after it. We are do-ers, go get-ers, dreamers and achievers. if there is something that lights up our heart, we are going to achieve it. 

"Go after your greatest fears. Conquer them, accept them, crush them. There you are able to live your greatest life."

We waste a lot of our time walking into a room already thinking there's something wrong here. If you believe something is wrong, you're probably going to make something wrong, think something's wrong, or even do something wrong. You give power to your thoughts, your expressions. If you walk into the world thinking you're never going to make it, it's going to come right back to you. If you walk into a room thinking you're never good enough, you give those words power, and everyone is going to treat you like you aren't good enough.

The way we treat ourselves, the way we think about ourselves, for the most part is false. We find it easiest to hate on ourselves, be mean, and break ourselves down. If we constantly are telling ourselves these negative lies about ourselves, we give these thoughts power, and sooner or later, people are going to start agreeing with our lies.

This needs to stop here.

Stop starting your day thinking the world is going to fall. Start it by knowing there is love in this world and you have so much to give. Know that good things are going to happen, they will come. And if they don't? Go after them! Stop sitting, waiting and wishing, go after your dreams, do what you want, and smile. Please, please, please remember to smile. Not just with your face, but your whole body. Smile through your soul, through your toes and you heart. Really show people who you are, and no doubt, you will shine.